Clarity tool – charting

Each of us has found systems that help us organize our thoughts and make sense of what to do next. Here is one of my favorites. As I listen to a client share their list of concerns and tasks, the first thing I do is create a Sunburst Chart for clarity.

To create your Sunburst chart, draw a circle in the center of a blank page of paper and then draw rays out from that circle. Place your subject/project/issue in the center of that circle and on the rays, jot down the tasks/concerns/goals/questions that you have around this subject. Add as many rays as you need, making sure there is a mention of any concerns you have on the subject.With this chart design, you are free to not think (yet) about priorities; the idea is to view the whole situation in a new way.

After you have created your chart, take a breath. As you know, you have a lot on your plate and now you are seeing it all. These are things that you are thoughtful about and take seriously.

By jotting down all these things on your mind, some good things can happen. Keeping track of all this in your head can mean you worry about forgetting something important on the list. Now, with the act of setting down every aspect of the issue, you have given yourself a breather from that particular worry.

Secondly, just seeing all that you are tracking in one place will allow you to have more compassion for yourself. You are tracking a lot of priorities and tasks. If you saw another person’s list looking like this one, wouldn’t offering kind understanding come to mind? And when we add more compassion, we are often able to think more clearly and creatively, and make more satisfying decisions.

Thirdly, this chart allows you to view the situation from a distance: see both the forest and the trees. With this new perspective, often new solutions, options, and ways to streamline will be revealed.

And most importantly, this new view can help you see, more clearly, what on your list really matters to you. Everything has equal weight on this chart and this helps amplify the quieter voices. Often the most important things have the quietest voices. Claiming again what is most important to you will help you make stronger choices, with more confidence and security.

Would you like support with clarifying your priorities? I would like to  help; I offer a free, introductory 1/2 hour consultation and will email you the chart that we create. To schedule, here is the appointments page: Appointments  And thank you for the caring that you are bringing into the world. I wish you all the best.

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Millions of details and feeling clumsy -Part 1 of 2

As you juggle the million and one details – of both your life and that of your loved one, it is natural to feel tired and clumsy. Though this awkwardness is not fun, it makes sense. You are developing strength and balance and like all muscle training feeling uncoordinated is part of the territory. This is true even if you have been helping your loved one for years, because there will always be new things to learn and adjust to in this balancing act of your life. The coming good news is that, as with any muscle training, eventually you will see increased skill and flexibility. It is even likely that those muscles are showing up already.

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At the drive-through… wait, how did I get here?

Sometimes, it might not be obvious how much care-giving you have started doing, until some wear and tear shows up in another part of your life. Perhaps some poor health habits have returned, as you struggle to just get through your day. Or you notice you are irritated from not getting the rest you need.

Please take a few seconds and take a gentle breath, in and out. And then one more gentle breath and perhaps release a sigh that you notice. Good. You have just given yourself a pause that refreshes, a good saying for this moment, and an old soda pop slogan but one which applies here better! Take a pause, whenever you are on the way to somewhere you do not really want to go. And if, after the pause, you start driving to the gym, great. But where ever you go, and whatever you do, a pause will help, because you just gave yourself a little room to breathe.

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